A ‘Shravan Kumar’ in the Present Day
Most of us have heard the story of the devoted young lad who carried his old parents in baskets for a pilgrimage. I was filled with awe when I read the tale of a young man who has been carrying his old and visually challenged mother in a similar manner in this century; in fact until a few month ago, in 2003! The following picture caught my attention:
This picture was posted on the Internet in March 2013. The text connected with it said that a 36 year old man , Kailash Giri of Hinota village of Jabalpur district in Madhya Pradesh is on his way to Puri with his 80-year-old mother in a makeshift swing. The gist of his story is that he had lost his father and an elder brother when he was young. The mother had brought him with a lot of love and care. In fact she made every effort to ensure that the son grew up strong and healthy. He fell from a tree and hurt himself. The mother could not afford the expensive treatment, but she ‘cured’ his bones through prayer and penance. She had just one desire : to visit the “Char Dhams” (Abodes of God located in Dwarka, Puri, Badrinath and Rameshwar and shown on the map above) Consequently, he got a device made out of a strong bamboo and set out on his pilgrimage several years ago. It is said that he walked four to five kilometers every day and rested in a roadside temple. For meals and other human needs, he depended on charity.
This journey was not sponsored by any organization and our hero has neither taken any pictures nor kept a detailed record of where all he has been. But local press reporters have been covering it from time to time, and on the Internet I found several posts on this long and tortuous journey. To my mind, it seems that there could be some exaggeration in the narrative. But the following pictures posted between 2009 and March 2013 give enough evidence of the spirit of the young man and his devotion to his beloved mother.
Here, you see him feeding his mother, who is apparently visually challenged
In this picture, he is on the mountains. Accordingly, he is wearing clothes to protect him from cold weather
And here, he is back on the plains, in a different location.
Whichever way one looks at it, the spirit of the young ‘Brahmchari’ and his devotion to his mother can not be questioned. An enterprising journalist has prepared a brief video clip, which takes about five minutes to run. One can ‘fast forward’ it to save time. The link is given below:
PART II THE TALE OF ANOTHER ‘SON’
India is a land of great diversity. In an age when a son can be so devoted that he gives up all his creature comforts and literally carries the ‘load’ of his mother on his shoulders, I saw a press release about a son who has chained his 91 years old father in the house for the last two years, in Bangalore. This story fills one with disgust. I have a lot of details about this unfortunate man, who is ‘blessed’ with four sons and two daughters. He raised them as well as he could but only one of his six children is willing to let him ‘live’ with them. His picture is give below:
I am not sure that you can call it life…He is merely existing!
The crime which this hapless man committed is that he had lost control over his bowels. His son and daughter-in-law complain that if they leave him free, he dirties the whole house. When the neighbors tried to intervene, they said, “You keep him if you can!” And so this went on for several months. Indeed his other children did not even come to look him up. Finally, the neighbors brought this to the notice of the Police and they have taken him to NIMHANS for treatment. The latest report is that he was terribly under-nourished, and is now improving. In this case also, there is a video clip on the Internet, but it is a nauseating film to view. I am merely giving below the news item which appeared in the press last week. It says:
By Sheela, Team MangaloreanBangalore: Anantaiah Setty, 93-year-old man was rescued near Banashankari Temple, where his son had chained him from the last 18 months.
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there seems to be some limitation of words …so it seems couldn’t get my full view across …please have a relook thanks interesting topic
u/me
My dear Sir,
super, lot of effort taken by you to piece it together.
Sent a comment few minutes back in the website.
warm regards
Prabal Sen
I am quite sure there is no exaggeration to the story. And that is the point. One would expect that given the conditions in the days of Shrawan Kumar what he did may have been the ‘right’ thing. However is it the same given the present conditions?
Though most of us may not consider it but it is perhaps important to care about the impact that a persons actions has on others. Very good for the person and his ego and his (imagined) good karma. Wonder if even the mother, given a choice, would have liked to go through the ordeal. One can imagine being bounced around in a basket for thousands of kilometers and unfortunately while being visually impaired. But what about the aam aadmi ? Surely it is likely to have been an impediment to traffic and, though I hope not, have caused an unfortunate accident or two. Of course we will not know and in the context of the enormity of this ‘unique’ performance these ‘small’ things would easily have been overlooked, even as we tend to do so now.
India is a great country. It is only here, to my admittedly very limited knowledge, that things like this, and the ‘Kabadia’ experience happen in modern times. I hope I am correct , but those hundreds and thousands of people who carry the water of the Ganges mostly on their shoulders are called Kabadias. During this season they tend to dominate the highways and I have personally seen the traffic chaos that this causes. Again, at least I don’t know the resultant loss of life and injuries due to accidents caused, besides the obvious harassment.
But surely we dare not to meddle in matters of faith based on our traditions thousands of years old. Never mind that this is the Twenty First Century. No harm. Except that unfortunately the recent great tragedy of Uttarakhand and the possibility of a tragedy in the J&K pilgrimage may some how be linked to this attitude.
Now about running, hurling iron and other such activities. Physical fitness is generally considered to be an asset. Participation or even preparation for such activities requires and develops a higher level of physical fitness. In a crisis situation the improved levels of speed, strength, flexibility and other abilities achieved can be of considerable value.
Finally, by and large such activities do not cause any harassment or risk to others.
With warm regards,
jagwant
Very Touching,We should respect our elders so that youngers will follow your footsteps.
Thanks with regards,
Kapil Dev Sharma
L-7/2,Dlf Phase-2,Gurgaon Haryana India
9899771155
Kapil Dev ji,
Thanks. There is a very profound message in this tale, and you seem to have understood it. God Bless.
Surjit
Dear Sir,
Touching indeed.
Mr. Kailash Giri of Hinota village .
Also Mr. Jacques in Germany and the lady of 60 years ( in France?) visiting her widowed godmother in her late nineties – every week ( comments by Ms Bhanot)
Reminded of a song of the sixties
‘ He ain’t heavy he is my brother’ by The Hollies (Bob Scott and Bobby Russel)
The lyrics :
The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows where
But I’m strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother
So on we go
His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We’ll get there
For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother
If I’m laden at all
I’m laden with sadness
That everyone’s heart
Isn’t filled with the gladness
Of love for one another
It’s a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we’re on the way to there
Why not share
Background of this ballad :
( from internet site ‘ Songfacts’)
Hollies guitarist Tony Hicks : “In the 1960s when we were short of songs I used to root around publishers in Denmark Street. One afternoon, I’d been there ages and wanted to get going but this bloke said: ‘Well there’s one more song. It’s probably not for you.’ He played me the demo by the writers [Bobby Scott and Bob Russell]. It sounded like a 45 rpm record played at 33 rpm, the singer was slurring, like he was drunk. But it had something about it. There were frowns when I took it to the band but we sped it up and added an orchestra. The only things left recognizable were the lyrics. There’d been this old film called Boys Town about a children’s home in America, and the statue outside showed a child being carried aloft and the motto He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother. Bob Russell had been dying of cancer while writing. We never got, or asked for, royalties. Elton John – who was still called Reg – played piano on it and got paid 12 pounds. It was a worldwide hit twice.”
What kind of a village is Hinota to produce Kailash Giri ?
Hinota may be worth a visit.
regards
Prabal Sen
Ashok leyland MDC
Hosur
Tamil Nadu
Prabal,
Yours is easily the most researched comment. You have not only read the piece but also all the comments! Great!
And the poem you have sent is lovely. I have saved it for use when I need it.
Surjit
Sir,
Please refer to your kind words.
I am encouraged to add few lines.
A movie was made on this theme in Hollywood with Spencer Tracy ( as Father Flagnan, I think – the man who originated a ditty on this theme) and Mickey Rooney. I saw it in a TV channel called Turner Classic Movies, during 1999 -2000. The Hollies picked the idea from this movie. The TCM movie channel has been taken off the air by TATASKY, recently.
What a pity.
Thanks and regards
Prabal Sen
Dear Sir,
Thanks for such good information and views.
Satish Kumar Manocha
In my life
I have seen many
only seek comfort
but never share..
have a drink
but never offer..
life as you have already said
is a long journey
the journey is most enjoyable
till one reaches the destination
when none come
to receive one
then it’s the end ….
This far no further….
I once composed
‘’’let them say
what they want to
as all are born to…’’’
Those who have sacrificed
did so
not having praise in mind
but around the world
different folks we find
each one a different kind!
colls
any views are welcome on my email friends…
Dear Sergeant Major,
Your words are delightful.
It is a pity that you chose to join the Army, rather than pursuing your firs love. It is sad, but true that very few people understand poetry in the Military. Stories and anecdotes they can digest, but verse goes over their heads.
During the last few years, I have discovered that people have an aversion words, in any form. If something can be said in pictures (or video clips) it sinks in faster.
Yes. The holy Geeta tells us, “karma phal ki ichha na kar” And that is what you have said at the end of your poem IT IS AN ETERNAL TRUTH.
sURJIT
Grateful for ur sweetness and citation
Army alone taught me poetry
As I came across all colours
in all walks of life
rosy as well as discoloured petals
if they don’t want to understand
it’s up to them
upon your shoulders rests
all poetic men
Amen!
SGMT a long distant man…
Sir,
As usual you have hit the nail on the head. The journey is more important than the destination. Otherwise the destination for any life form on earth is “Ashes to Ashes and Dust to Dust”.
Regards
YVR Vijay.
Dear Surjit ji,
I am with late KD’s family. They are doing well. And Jessie joins me in greeting you and Surinder.
I enjoy your mails. Thank you.Hope Surinder is doing well.
With warm wishes,from both of us.
Jessie & Ratna
Dear Ratna and Jessie,
Glad that Ratna is in LA. Hope you both and families are doing well.
Joseph & Elsie Thomas
Bangalore
Sir,
As per my estimate the total weight on the shoulders of the modern day ‘Shravan Kumar’ is at least 80 to 90 kilograms, (even if we assume that the old lady is no more than forty kilos) To carry that much weight over a distance of five kilometers day after day for several years and then take it up the mountains seems incredible. Couldn’t he use a wheeled carrier to make his job simpler? Indeed, a rickshaw would have made it even better!
Be that as it may, the Story does convey a message. God bless the son, and may the Lord be with the mother, who went to so many places, even though she saw nothing!
Gul
Thank you.
In my opinion, some kind of a wheeled device would have been better. But the man was driven by his sentiments. And I think people who go by the dictates of their beliefs and value system must be lauded for that.
Surjit
mubarakaaan
so many lovely comments
happy birthday gift to you
from me toooooo
Sir jee,
Kaisi vidambana hai, kuchh karo to koi dekhta bhi nahin
Aur kuchh na karo, to daad mil jaati hai!
Moorkh Tulsi
Tulsi ji,
In the scripture, we have a couplet, which says:
“Aapus ko jo jaane manda
Sou ganiye sabse changaa!”
(It means, “One, who considers himself inferior, should be counted as the best)
So by prefixing that adjective to your name, you have elevated your self, in my estimate!
May the Lord be with you, always and every time!
Surjit
Dear Surjit ji,
Wish you a very happy birthday, belated though.
Thanks for the write up on respecting parents.
Love,
Inderpal
Uncle ji,
Thanks. Your blessings mean a lot to us.
Surjit
“IN TAMIL, it is known as thalaikoothal. A leisurely oil bath. An exercise in love and health when given to newborn children, a ceremonial beginning to festivals, and the universal answer to pitiless summers. In Tamil Nadu’s small industry hub of Virudhunagar, however, it is the beginning of slow murder. The marker of the devastating poverty that makes a son kill his own aging mother.”
Read the full article at http://tehelka.com/mother-shall-i-put-you-to-sleep/
“Mother, shall I put you to sleep?” Tehelka, 20 Nov 2010
Thomas,
Quite frankly, the right thing for the errant son to do was to put the father to sleep, and face the consequences. What he did is inhuman and disgusting. As things stand, the couple should be punished, in my opinion.
Surjit
That opens up the whole issue of euthanasia, which is legal only in a few countries. BTW the old man sure has some resilience and will to live.
The second story is revolting but the first story gives you hope. Hope for love and care when required on growing old.
Amit,
Life is a mix.
Wise people are able to learn from the positive side, and refuse to even look the other way!
Surjit
Sir,
Read ur latest article. touched by extremes depicted by you. hope to look up articles regularly henceforth. pls convey our regards to most graceful Mrs Surjit. we wish u keep good health always and i hope to keep learning from ur inspiring stories.
regards,
Harman
Harman,
Thanks.
Do keep in touch. And we look forward to meeting you when you visit North next time.
Surjit
Sir, this is very nice.
regards
Virender Kapoor
Virender,
Thanks for the kind words.
It is now your turn to send us a piece.
Surjit
Shravan Kumar attained glory!
He is an inspiration for many …
Then came Satya Kam
who had a similar experience
of looking after aged parents
Then came yours truly
Satya Kumar
was posted to Dehra Dun
in the last leg of both parents life
and they were though long abandoned owing to military service
finally, were well looked after and they both died happily within a year of each other..
If this be a theory of incarnation so let it be
Tis….
Good.
I am blessed 4 times over.
Father of two wonderful daughters and grand father of two very sweet grand daughters.
Unlikely that you will find a similar second tale with daughters.
Worth a research!
Regards.
Viren
Viren,
You are blessed SIX times over. You missed out me and Surinder!
Surjit
Dear Sir,
Just a few thoughts:
The First Story:
Very touching and very impressive.
Very laudable?
The young man is obviously very fit, and can be assumed to have basic intelligence and perhaps may also be literate. He could have tried to get a job, worked hard managed some savings and taken his mother around in relative comfort as no doubt thousands of sons are doing in India. Instead he chose an option in which the mother would have gone through considerable hardships and both of them subsisted on the hard earned money of others. Am sure they would have often been a traffic hazard too.
Perhaps happens only in India.
The Second Story:
Sad and tragic. More so there are other such instances too, in India and in other countries also. It may be said to be our duty to report any such extreme case to the authorities at the earliest. In this case it appears the neighbours should have done it much earlier.
Regards
jog
Thank you Surjit sir,
Very touching episodes of two types of “Sharavan Kumars” but the themes, and their consequences, can be clearly understood only by persons of Indian origin – in the age groups of 75a nd 85, what you and me are. Unfortunately, the outside culture – of Europe, Islamic countries anfd those of African races, where a father has become an unknown commidity – have brought decadence in Punjabis as well. Canada and rural punjab are random examples.
Coloenl Y V Tuli (Retd)
Yash ji,
Thanks for the kind words.
How about sending us a feedback on your meeting at Vadodara, (with pictures) when your return.
Surjit
Hello Uncle, I will see you in August. My wife and me will be there for Dad’s 80th birthday.
Ryan has decided to go for mechanical engineering. His classes have started. For a change he is hitting the books hard.
More when we meet.
Warm Regards,
Harry.
Harry,
We are also looking forward to meeting you. Do bring a lot of news, and I want to spend some quality time with you!
Surjit
General Sahib salaams
A recent study by Help Age India showed that not only lack of care but even violence against the elderly is on the increase in India in an alarming manner.
My question always is that though we all speak very nostalgically about the good old days of our youth and the values that we were brought up with, how is it that we failed to pass them on? Who but we are responsible for the pathetic younger generation that we are now seeing in action?
Trust you are keeping well.
Yawar
Namastey Uncle ji,
Thanks a lot for sharing this interesting article.
In fact, the photograph has been around since quite some time now (This picture was posted on the Internet in March 2013.). Unfortunately the second one is just so common. How many people mistreat their elders like this? And there’s no apparent reason. Just greed… and the fact that we are becoming more and more individualistic.
I’m not sure if I can be like the first one but I’m sure I’ll never be like the second one. I guess it’s a question of love. When you love someone you take care of that person and this is indeed no way to treat someone you love.
Personally, I don’t think that being individualistic really implies going to this other extreme. It is callous and cruel attitude. Are we losing humanity? And some people say that this is the result of our being victims of westernisation of the society but I can assure you that that certainly is not true. People in the west aren’t that cruel either. One of my friends (above 60) visits her widowed and childless Godmother every week and does everything she can to take care of her. The old lady is almost hundred and now lives in a specialised home for old people where she has all facilities. She lived in her own house till she could but then it became dangerous to leave her alone and so all family members and friends discussed and now she has her appartments in this old people’s home and everyone visits her as often as they can. My friend (the Goddaughter) lives quite far (not in the same city) and does everything she can for the old lady.
Another friend of mine (in her 40s) takes care of father of one of her childhood friends who refused to live in Germany where his children live.
Jacques goes to visit his parents as often as he can, does all their shopping. His parents don’t want to leave their village.
So it’s not a question of being influenced by the west. It’s that we are losing our own moral values and humanity. And that is the sad truth.
Cordialement/ Best Regards,
Ritu Bhanot
Linguist
117 Residence des Arts
13 Rue du Hohwald
67000 Strasbourg, FRANCE
http://www.ritubhanot.com
Tel.: 0033 (0)6 50 04 68 49
Ritu,
You are a role model, whom many should emulate.
I am now looking forward to receiving another piece from you. And this time, there should be some pictures with it!
Surjit Uncle
The First Story:
Very touching and very impressive.
Very laudable?
The young man is obviously very fit, and can be assumed to have basic intelligence and perhaps may also be literate. He could have tried to get a job, worked hard managed some savings and taken his mother around in relative comfort as no doubt thousands of sons are doing in India. Instead he chose an option in which the mother would have gone through considerable hardships and both of them subsisted on the hard earned money of others. Am sure they would have often been a traffic hazard too.
Perhaps happens only in India.
The Second Story:
Sad and tragic. More so there are other such instances too, in India and in other countries also. It may be said to be our duty to report any such extreme case to the authorities at the earliest. In this case it appears the neighbours should have done it much earlier.
Jog,
I have received similar suggestions from two other friends on phone. It makes sense to me.
But I think, this young man had a message to give, and this was the only method he could think of. He took a leaf out of the Ramayana for his mission.
Or, as you said, “To each, his own!”
Surjit
The present story is a comparison of Good and Bad,in this Yuga. We can learn some lessons and pass on the advice to our kids, but personaL example has to be set first.
Nice article.
The parent-child relationship, as pointed out here, can fall anywhere over a spectrum ranging from amicable to hostile.
I agree that sometimes children are deeply influenced by external factors when it comes to their dealings with their parents, but sometimes, it is the upbringing itself that causes an imbalance.
Isha ji,
Thanks. Your words are always chosen very well.
The purpose of the journey of this young man was to deliver a message, and I think he has done it very well.
We now eagerly await your wedding. And if you and Prakarsh send us another piece, I would be glad to post it.
Surjit
I have read Shravan Kumar’s life style
of looking after his blind parents
Then came Satya Kam
who had a similar experience
of looking after aged parents
Then came yours truly
Satya Kumar
was posted to Dehra Dun in the last leg of both parents life
and they were though long abandoned owing to military service
finally, were well looked after and they both died happily within a year of each other..
If this be a theory of incarnation so let it be
Tis….
Sir ji,
The man called Satya Kumar Kohli is no less than Shravan Kumar. I have seen you in that house near the Clock Tower in Dehra Dun. And I saw what a caring son you were. And you maintained very cordial relations with your brothers and sister.
Surjit
eh mere bhai
diamonds kee ankhein hain teree
aour memory ussey bhee takdee
shukriyaa kaissey na karoon
umr hai baakee thoddee
prarthnaa karta hoon
dostee amar rahey hummaree..
khush raho jahan bhee rahon
yehi ek hee hai sirf ek…
jindagi hai saaree
iss koe banna kay rakho pyaaree…
Thanks friend and more brother
I learn from you still…
at times eyes swell
when there is no water
in the well…